Atonement

When a culture has lived in a state of sin and has caused huge damage, there is no easy way out. It will never be forgotten and it will continue to undermine societal health until it is fully and overtly atone for. Two obvious examples are slavery and misogyny. For our hundreds of years of enslaving a people and for our history back to the stone age of mistreating women (through rape, murder, oppression, discrimination), it will eat us until we come clean and pay for it in a way that actually heals. There is no "getting over it." Some things you don't get over. I can imagine being raped is one of them. Being denigrated as a slave. Losing a child in a tragic, needless accident or through violent and torturous crime. None of these are "get over it-able." It will continue to erode our collective self esteem until we make up for it in as many possible ways that there are to do so. Until then, don't get over it. That's a fallacious admonition and the person who makes it doesn't understand how life works.